Dr. Phil is an asshole, (comma)
Dr. Phil is an asshole, in my opinion and among other things, so your lawyers can piss off, Phil.
It amazes me how we have been trained to get defensive when someone challenges our opinions, or when someone states an opinion or lives a lifestyle that is different from our own. You never have to convince me of your opinion, you merely have to convince yourself. The law, by the way, has never been a good dictator of morals, so don’t expect to change anyone by passing laws. I am about to come to the defense of someone who is living a controversial, even inflammatory, lifestyle. This is not the same as defending that lifestyle, but due to the standard confusion of ideas, I have to make that distinction for many who might read this.
Why do I think that Dr. Phil is an asshole? Because he behaved like one. Maybe this shouldn’t surprise me, but my experience is based on the one and only time that I bothered to watch his show. He had a couple on the show, ostensibly to talk about the fact that they were swingers (casual sex, multiple partners). I tuned in just in time to hear him ask (something like) “You would let this guy crawl all over you while your five year old son was asleep upstairs????”
Let me break this down. First, no good psychologist, interested in his patient’s welfare, would ask such a question. A good psychologist might ask, “How would you feel if your son walked into the room, and how would you explain what he would see?” Phil didn’t do that. Phil pandered to the TV audience, reinforcing their own mainstream, self-righteous values. “... crawl all over...”, like an insect or a snake? Nice imagery. Gee, I guess Phil has a problem with this lifestyle and wants to make sure that I do too. Confusion of ideas: “Provide sexual stimulation” becomes “crawl all over you”. Confusion of ideas again: how visually different is it if mom and dad are getting it on, and if mom and someone else are getting it on? I’m not saying that there aren’t more complex problems in the second case, but would Phil ask, “Would you let your husband crawl all over you while your five year old son was asleep upstairs?” Easier to justify perhaps, but no easier to explain to a five year old. Phil is an asshole.